Something about Embracing the suck Together

Every Veteran is a neighbor’s child. Everyone knows someone who served or is serving everyone. Read to the end to see what happens most times a Vet finds a supportive community out there. So here is an example of our culture;

Question/Advice

Embrace the Suck Together!!

Hey, I'm a 20-year-old female who has been in the navy for about two years. Unfortunately, I've been frequently passing out since boot camp. In fact, I was never supposed to make it past Boot Camp, but my RDC helped me get to this day. I still do not know how. But now I'm in the Navy, and I've been passing out about 4-5 times a month, or maybe 2 times a month on a good month. I have been placed on LIMDU. I was screwed over in the beginning being placed on LIMDU, but I technically wasn't on LIMDU and was still on my ship working normally, and I ended up being placed on LIMDU around my third month in my first cycle, and I was finally left off the ship even though I was already supposed to be gone, and I only had 1 or 2 months of LIMDU left over, so they gave me a second cycle. I've been to cardiology and neurology for basic testing, and they said they couldn't find anything. They now want to separate me, but they want to do it the administrative way. I told them I didn't want that, but they are still trying to push it on me, saying it's easier. I want a medical board. I have other things on my records, like MDD, restless legs, and anxiety, but I feel like my PCM is trying to lowball me, (I feel like it) and I'm at a loss for what to do. Any advice?

Good luck shipmate

I would use an outside attorney who is a former JAG. They’re a lot of them. I used one for my situation.

Knowing then what I know now, push for the med board. Administrative separation is your last resort at which point you get a lawyer. Don’t sign any waivers!

Don't accept anything less than a medboard, they are trying to get you out the fastest, easiest way they can and it will fuck you over in the long run.

Keep pushing to get testing for your issue. There is a reason for what is happening. While that is going on, show your willingness to work and be part of Navy. You need to be recommended for a medboard. If you’re not getting what you need don’t be afraid to write your rep or senator.

Well, it sounds like you get to use your pen and mouth more. Here is some barracks lawyering at its finest:

Go to each of your doctors and tell them you want a second opinion. You have a right to a second opinion.

 https://tricare.mil/referrals#:~:text=Getting%20a%20Second%20Opinion,opinion%2C%20go%20to%20your%20PCM.

2. If you’re denied a second opinion you need to use the open door policy. You are not getting what you’re promised and I’m gonna be honest with you, I got so frustrated with my chain of command sitting on their ass that I found myself standing in front of the III Corps commander (3 Star) before a problem was solved. I still have an email I sent to the MEDCOM commander when I ran into issues for my medboard. My MEB took almost 2 years.

3. Write a letter to your rep or senator. You need to tell them what is lacking. You’re not getting the medical care that’s promised to you. Your CoC is not listening to you and are failing to take care of you. If you go this route, understand that you may and will most likely get what you want, but your command might not be so nice to you afterwards.

Everything comes with a risk, but you don’t know what will happen until you take that risk.

Sorry, I know that was tough, but I had limited choices, I hope I showed enough while blacking out enough to not reveal anything. My example here is to show you how we have each other in the military and understand / share resources with one another to help each other without expectation or demand no cost ECT.

Just one Soldier, Sailor, Airmen, Marine, Guardian, Coast Guardsmen, Reservists, National Guardsmen doesn’t matter military is military we even usually count our first responders in our ranks because service is service, but they are normally overlapping communities anyways. The Point is our veterans have lost those connections the ones we seek to help, they don’t have that help or the resources recommendations they don’t have a phone or a computer to even ask the question most of the time they believe they are alone, so they are alone.

There are appox. 19.4 million veterans per the last census - only 5.6 million have a disability rating per VA. Note: that lots of vets don’t even bother with the VA, even those who qualify.

3 Months ago

“Im on the edge of killing my self. I'm in the shower I have my rifle a magazine. I dont want to do it in the house, because I don't want my wife to have to deal with the body. I'm lost I'm in Sacramento CA... shit st going down hill man. I dont have a support system and I'm hurting physically and mentally for too long....

Update: driving to Mather VA to check myself in. Thank you everybody. I'll post one more update when I park. Thank u so much” –elttsunami

Also 3 Mos ago but after one week

“I was inpatient care for the week with a clearer mind set. I'm still not at a 100% and I know i never will be but I'm in a better mental space. I wanted to do another post to update everyone that I'm still alive and with high hopes. I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for this community. I'm still hurting but I can smile, I was able to hold my 4 month year old.

While being inpatient I came across some of our brothers and sisters going through stuff too. It saddens me, but we all bonding in our suffering. Something about embracing the suck together. Most of them were like me with no actual support system other than the VA. I pray that they beat their demons and make it in their journey.

I feel there's more of us that don't have a support system and we're left in limbo. This motivated me to want to start potentially non-profit to help our people.”–elttsunami

We are all looking for ways to help one another and just running around in the dark the lucky ones have moments of reflection and a desire to do something but unfortunately that loses itself to lifes problems again because we lose sight of what helped him in the first place I will quote: “I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for this community I came across some of our brothers and sisters going through stuff too. It saddens me, but we all bonding in our suffering. Something about embracing the suck together.”

I Again argue itrs environment if you check out our “Veterans’ Empowerment & Reintegration Program: A Sustainable Model for Lasting Change.” You will see where Veteran communities are the key to Veteran Reintegration. Thank You again for joining us on our journey. Just listen to Veterans in their own words. May God Continue to Bless You and your families.

Oh about: elttsunami

“Account suspended

Reddit has suspended this account. Mod notes and previous actions are preserved, but other data is inaccessible.”  He Broke the rules for speaking out, so they shut him up.

Respectfully,

American Warriors Foundation